I am the most imperfect person I know.After 23 years of living, I’ve learned to own my imperfection! There was a time when I let people put me in a box. Many would call me “Miss Goody Two-Shoes” simply because I stood out from other kids. Being teased in this way by many adult family members made me feel awkward growing up. I began to put unnecessary pressure on myself to be “perfect” in an effort to prevent the name calling that hurt my feelings, but it seemed that the more I tried to fit neatly into those boxes they created for me the more they made fun of me.
Over the years this desire to please people didn’t go away, in fact it grew stronger and my confidence grew weaker. It’s like the more I wanted to please others the less I thought of myself. This cycle of feeling inadequate followed me from my childhood days, through my preteen years, though my high school and teenage years, through college, up until…..
Well, I am still a work in progress!
But let me tell you, my confidence is a lot higher. My mindset about who I am is a lot more rooted in my own ways of thinking. I’ve become so much more comfortable in my skin!
When I used to make mistakes, booooooooooooy I used to feel like it was the end of the world. But, not I don’t sweat the small stuff. I’ve accepted the fact that every rumor about you doesn’t need to be addressed because people are going to believe what they want to believe and everyone’s opinions shouldn’t and don’t matter. There is nothing anyone can say or do to make me feel bad about being an imperfect being.
YES, there are things I’ve done in my life that I am not proud of.
Life is about making mistakes, learning from them and moving on. The sooner I learned that the better off and less stressed I became.
“Imperfection is beauty” -Marilyn Monroe
Now, I am not one to quote Marilyn Monroe too often, but this quote is perfect and it captures the essence of my message.
STOP allow people to project their insecurities on you because they are not courageous enough to deal with their own issues.
Imperfect Imani is here to stay, take her or leave her.
Those are the options!